Comments on: The Power Of No

By: mezz

mezz — Wed, 17 Jun 2009 05:47:51 +0000

@Robert:
Thanks robert for contributing to my blog …I appreciate you adding some great points to for all of us to contemplate….hope all is well….Ivan

By: Robert

Robert — Wed, 17 Jun 2009 05:21:25 +0000

Perfect timing!! I’ve been thinking about this for the last day or so. It seems that most internal conflict and unhappiness comes from our reactions (usually habitual) to requests from other people. Either that or our halucinations about how another person is currently reacting to our actions (or lack of action). For example; rushing home because you think your significant other is going to be upset or already is. In both cases, we are taking “an action” based on our perception of what another person is going to think, feel or react too. By definition, this is “insanity” since we are reacting to an illusion. Even if the illusion becomes real, only at that point does it really make sense to take the necessary action to deal with it. Which is also a waste of time and effort because if you are truly self actualized you really have no need to spend time with people who get upset with you for being who you are.
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By: moralde

moralde — Mon, 25 May 2009 23:08:00 +0000

I noticed that as I grew older, I gradually gained confidence to utter the 'N' word. Maturity does have its perks, but If I were to have a chance to re-live this life, I definitely would not wait for nature to give this confidence and guts to me in her own time. Looking back, had I practiced saying No earlier, my life would be entirely different, in the sense that there were important choices that were made for me, instead of by me. moralde’s last blog post..My Review of My Online Income System

By: Gerry

Gerry — Sun, 24 May 2009 20:51:11 +0000

Fantastic piece, thank you, such an important point of learning for me, a Yes guy!

I would also suggest the great power of saying when applicable “I don’t know” and reserve the right to be uncertain while you listen in to hear the inner wisdom. Or “I don’t know yet” if that is more diplomatic.

By: mezz

mezz — Sun, 24 May 2009 05:32:10 +0000

@Jared:
@Eric V.:
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thank you so much for contributing to my site I appreciate your thoughts and perspectives
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By: Jared

Jared — Thu, 21 May 2009 12:33:08 +0000

Great post. "I have the right to say no." I used to struggle with this a lot, after all, I want to be liked and would worry more about someone else's feelings more than my own. This is a recipe for resentments! I good guide for me... if I feel I may resent the commitment or person in the future, I'm doing it for the wrong reasons. But, as Ivan said, I must be in-tune with my inner self to recognize that. It takes practice, but all starts from being OK with who I am, that I'm not responsible for other peoples happiness. I'm also not responsible for hurting someones feelings if I say no... of course I need to be mindful how I respond, but in many cases I do not have to give a reason. A simple no is OK. Jared’s last blog post..What Everybody Ought to Know About Action vs. Intention

By: Eric V.

Eric V. — Thu, 21 May 2009 04:48:34 +0000

I could not agree more. I blogged about this a little while ago and am struggling with “listening to my internal voice” and saying No. I really like your statement that you must have proper awareness of the situation. I can look back and see that the times that I have backed myself into a corner by saying Yes when I should have said No were times that I did not pay attention to the situation. Thanks for pointing out this fact so succinctly.