I Feel Good: The Art of Living Spontaneously

“All growth is a leap in the dark, a spontaneous, unpremeditated act without benefit of experience.” Henry Miller

When I wrote this short post, I was 35,000 ft up in the air, in route to my new home in South Korea. Just like a swift smack to the face, it hits me, the realization of how good it feels to follow your heart. I love exploring new lands but in the midst of great global uncertainty, many of my friends and family think I am a little crazy for moving.

More and more because of the path I have chosen to walk, I consequently feel like a kid again, a kid full of wonder, only difference is that I have a deeper understanding of myself and the world.

What makes me feel like a kid again? The answer is spontaneity. Being spontaneous means acting in the present, being responsible for my actions no matter what they may bring. How does living in this space feel like? The short answer is less thinking more feeling. I get in tune with my total being and learn to proceed by feeling things out and not letting my mind corrupt what I am feeling or becoming lost in my emotions.

When you learn to let the different aspects of your being function independently and not allow them to mix into one another, great energy and awareness is released in you. The awareness that allows you to go beyond your conditioning, so what may look like irrational, crazy, or amazing behavior to others, feels perfectly right and normal for you. People ask aren’t you afraid, or mention that they wish they could do the same thing, but their conditioning keeps them a slave to their limiting ideas.

Of course I am afraid, moving to a place where I can’t speak the language, and don’t know anything about living there is a very scary endeavor. But I choose not to run away from my fears, I try to witness them, look them in the face without judging or distorting, because to run away or change them only serves to increase them.

I would rather suffer from my fears then to be a slave to fixed ideas, to be tied down to the known and comfortable. I strive to live in the new and unknown where anything can happen, because that’s where I feel truly alive.

Guess what happens when you keep pushing and striving to live a spontaneous life? It becomes easier, the more you act spontaneously the more your fears will begin to fade, you develop trust in your being, you feel whole, and your conditioning begins to lose its grip on you. You are then also able to see very clearly how much others are bound to their fixed limiting ideas.

Logically everyone would like to be told how to live spontaneously, but being spontaneous means being free of structure, so obviously there isn’t a system or “how to” book on it.

Just “be” spontaneous, put your fears to the side and suspend your beliefs. It will be very challenging at first but by and by you will come to develop a knack and feel for being spontaneous. Everything you do will have a fresh quality to it. How you speak, how you walk, how you think, and how you act will have a certain freshness to it.

You just have to realize that anything can create fear, anything you have become attached to will create fear. But to let your fears dominate you is to not live your life; your fears will cripple you. So I encourage you to make the leap into the unknown, be spontaneous, magical things await. God speed my friend.

(life in South Korea Video #2)

If you enjoyed this post check out:

• How To Increase Your Awareness and Expand Your Consciousness
• Discovering Your Life’s Purpose and Exploring Your Divine Nature
• How To Make The Leap Into The Unknown
• How To Enjoy and Grow By Being With Yourself
• How To Be Quiet and Stop Thinking
• How To Develop Your 6th Sense: Intuition
• Understanding Your Relationships To Find Your Path To Freedom
• Stuck In The Middle: Living In The Land of Observation

“Be fully present in the moment no matter what you are doing,the best in you will reveal itself.” – Master Jin Kwon

Hello everyone just wanted to let you know I have moved to the land of taekwondo and kimchi, as soon as I have settled into my apartment I will resume with my writing. Until then here are a few video highlight of my time thus far in South Korea. Hope all is well, take care and much love – Ivan

Wake Up! Don’t Wait To Live Your Life

“Don’t ask what the world needs. Ask what makes you come alive, and go do it. Because what the world needs is people who have come alive.” Howard Thurman

If you are a regular reader of mine, you may have noticed that I have not been posting as much as I used to. Just to keep you in the loop I have been really busy with getting ready for my next move to Busan, South Korea. Also in this last month I have lost two very special people, my grandmother and the mother of one of my best friends.

To say the least having these two special people pass away was life’s intense reminder to not take anything for granted. The moment we are born we are dying; life truly is a precious gift. What I am about to say is nothing new nor earth shattering, but it is something that cannot be said enough. Life’s advice to us is this: “wake up and live your life”. Even though biologically you may be alive and breathing the unfortunate fact is that most are not living. To me in the universes grand scheme of things, life is essentially meaningless, it is up to me to create meaning and purpose for my life, it is my responsibility.

Most live monotonous robotic lives because they have yet to develop a deep understanding of themselves and are busy thinking of the past or imagining the future. Totally neglecting the only thing that matters, which is life in the present moment. So by living I mean bringing total awareness to whatever you are doing. Even little things such as drinking tea, with enough awareness anything can be creative. Living a life of awareness will keep you grounded and centered into existence. Living in the space of simple awareness you are one with your actions, you are still able to use your mind yet remain above your thinking processes.

I was fortunate enough to be with my grandmother in her last moments of being aware and conscious. Over several days’ her body was technically alive but she was no longer with us, there was no more awareness left. Life is dynamic, constantly changing, to experience all the dimensions that life has to offer we must learn to live intensely. What I mean by living intensely is to be totally aware of your body, thoughts, feelings, and emotions. When you learn to be aware of these different aspects of your being you will be aware of your own awareness.

If you continue to grow your awareness with time this will become the predominate state of your being. When you live like this you are able to experience the richness of life, you lead a life of harmony in both your inner and outer worlds. Being in harmony means you have developed enough awareness to let your heart learn to feel, and your mind to think clearly, you don’t allow them to mix. Whenever the heart gets mixed with the head (or vice versa), the different aspects of your being become corrupted, your judgment becomes clouded. Through meditation you develop a calm even mind that is able to use reason and logic, and a heart that is able to feel deeply, you become more loving and compassionate.

So is awareness something that can even be cultivated? The short answer is yes, but this has to be something that you genuinely want to discover on your own. Awareness cannot be given to you by anyone or anything unless you apply it to your life and gain your own understanding.

Methods such as yoga, tantra, and meditation will help you become more aware because they help you transcend your thinking mind. They give you the direct experience of creating enough space to dis-identify and become un-clutched from your mind. By becoming un-clutched from your mind you will begin to live in a space that is free to observe, by and by you will learn to recognize this space, and know that your true identity is beyond your thoughts and mind.

You just can’t understand this logically you will need to experience it in your own life, the problem is that we are so heavily conditioned that awareness has not been allowed to blossom within us. People live the same life day in and day out and make no effort to penetrate the mysteries of life and our own being. In the words of Socrates “”An unexamined life is not worth living”, and I agree. It really baffles me that many will end up dying and never go into these issues deeply.

Many of us have only caught glimpses of pure awareness. Deep down we know we have experienced something magical, but since these moments are very short and fleeting, we brush them off. We just hope that we experience them again in the future. We catch these glimpses in extreme sports, driving fast, total relaxation, joy, orgasm, or being in love.

What is the state of being that we experience in these situations? We get a glimpse of “no mind”, when even if it is for a split second your mind becomes utterly empty, peace of mind, or rather peace from mind.

Do you remember a time when you became lost in your lovers eyes? You may have not been able to recognize it but you where in a space of total awareness, you gave him/her the purity of your attention, but where was your mind? You where simply present and totally available to your loved one. But as soon as you tried to verbalize what you where experiencing, you removed yourself from being with them totally. Thoughts are of time, of the past, awareness is of “no time” it is your consciousness functioning in the present.

So to me “living life” is to live with awareness, to be awake in the world, to just simply be. Living a life of awareness will help you discover: love, joy, and purpose.

As you increase your awareness you will discover the part of your being that exists as spontaneous joy. Living a spontaneous life means you make the leap into the unknown and will take responsibility for your actions no matter what they may be. Actions born free of your conditioning. You use the knowledge you have accumulated only if it is useful, but you do not become a slave to it if it will hinder your progress.

Also please don’t accept or deny anything I have said, this is your life so go find out for yourself, truth cannot be given to you by anyone. Words can be tricky when trying to describe the indescribable, impossible really, plus I am not very poetic so please forgive me.

We are all different so each journey will be different, ultimately the view from the top is the same, but getting there will be your own unique path. If you feel like anything I have said resonates with you, then please continue to read some of the posts listed below. I feel they will assist you in increasing your awareness

Posts To Assist You:

• How To Increase Your Awareness and Expand Your Consciousness
• Discovering Your Life’s Purpose and Exploring Your Divine Nature
• How To Make The Leap Into The Unknown
• How To Enjoy and Grow By Being With Yourself
• How To Be Quiet and Stop Thinking
• How To Develop Your 6th Sense: Intuition
• Understanding Your Relationships To Find Your Path To Freedom
• Stuck In The Middle: Living In The Land of Observation

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WHEN YOU GET A NEW BOSS, THE PERSON WITH THE NEW JOB IS YOU.
By my dear friend and CEO Coach Debra Benton

How do you ‘go on board’ when you’re already there?

When you get a new boss you are the unknown. Even though your job position hasn’t changed, you have to take the same action as if you are going on board a new position.

When nearly 10% loose their jobs the remaining 90% get shuffled around ending up with different reporting relationships.

Before you meet your new boss take some time and Monday morning quarterback the mistakes you made with your previous boss. Think about and write down what you should have done differently then plan to remedy past errors.

Provide positive support even if you feel you should have gotten the job. You didn’t. How you handle yourself at this standpoint might get you the job next time.

Welcome the person the same way you might a new neighbor. Invite to lunch or offer to bring sandwiches in to have time to talk and get to know each other

Ask and listen to learn how to best work together; don’t guess. Find out his or her first 30-90 day agenda; the most important issues or problems to solve. Here’s an occasion to ask basic, maybe even stupid-sounding questions. When one executive was asked, how do you prefer to communicate: face to face, telephone, email? He said, ‘I like yellow post-it notes left on my desk so when I return to my office I can scan them and see what I need to respond to.”

Make the impression you want your new boss to have of you. Show confidence in who you are and what you bring to the table. From the first time you meet ensure the message you send is the one you intend with your appearance, manner, and comportment. If you have self-doubt, the person will cut you off in a heartbeat. You’ll never really recover if you misstep here.

Tell your new boss about your job duties, responsibilities, your team, and scope of work as it fits in with the rest of the department/company. Seek out how he or she views changes in your role. (Don’t criticize your former boss.)

Delve into Google, Facebook, Linkedin, or other internet sources. People put information on themselves they want you to know. Keep in mind, your new manager is likely reading your profile and updates as well.

Observe and study how he or she interacts and reacts to colleagues, subordinates, and superiors. In a non-judgmental fashion look for consistencies and inconsistencies; check out what works and doesn’t work with the individual.

After you understand what your new boss wants to achieve and avoid, do something successful and worthwhile around it. Sticking to your old bosses agenda is a mistake. There is a new sheriff downtown. Do more than the person expects; demonstrate initiative without requiring further direction. Come in with, “This is what we should do and here’s how I think we should do it.” Don’t pester with, “Now what should I do?”

And, stay in touch with your old boss. If things don’t go well, he or she might be a source of good advice – or a resource for ways to get out.

You might ask, “Isn’t it the boss’s job to get to know me?” Yes, it is. And he or she is getting to know you by how you get to know her.